Overseasidol.com — Former “Youth With You 3” contestant He Derui has sparked widespread discussion after a video of him with a woman believed to be his girlfriend went viral.
Surprisingly, the controversy did not revolve around the dating rumors themselves, but rather around his seemingly indifferent attitude toward the woman throughout their time together.
On December 1, 2025, several entertainment outlets released footage showing Hederui out on a date-like outing holding hands, dining together, and visiting the gym.
Despite these intimate activities, Hederui was seen almost constantly staring at his phone, barely acknowledging the woman’s attempts to engage with him.
The moment that drew the most criticism occurred while the pair were waiting for a car. In the video, the woman leaned in twice to ask for a kiss.
Although Hederui responded briefly, he immediately turned his head away afterward.
This detail triggered strong reactions online, with many netizens accusing him of being “emotionally absent”, “dismissive” and “disrespectful to his partner”.
As the video spread, the conversation quickly shifted from questioning whether the two were dating to examining how Hederui interacts in a relationship.
The incident has sparked broader debate on emotional presence and respect in romantic partnerships, especially involving public figures.
So far, Hederui has not issued any official response regarding the viral footage.